Children and Families

Children and Families

   The Family Wellness Court was officially established in December 2019, although the first families are just now entering the program. The goal is to have more than 10 families in the program after one year. The program was established through a grant from AOC (Administrative Office of Courts) through the funding for problem solving courts.

   There is a significant need for this program in Bibb County to help keep children out of foster care and to help return foster children to their homes. In a 5-year period from September 30, 2013 to September 30, 2018, the number of children in foster care in Bibb County increased 1,600 percent. Bibb County currently has the fourth highest rate of removal of any county in Alabama and caretaker drug abuse is the primary cause in 70 percent of those cases (we were second a year ago). Bibb County sees reports of child abuse and neglect that are more than 2.5 times the State average.

   The goal of the Bibb County Family Wellness Court (FWC) is to provide a mechanism to help primary custodians live a drug-free life and assume the full responsibilities of parenting their children. This program provides early intervention and immediate treatment to parents who abuse substances and willingly commit to cooperate with the program. This program will provide heightened supervision of the Court and therapeutic intervention by the Family Wellness Court Coordinator working in conjunction with the DHR Social Worker, treatment service providers, and peer support systems.

   The program has 4 treatment phases and the entire program lasts about one year. There are incentives and sanctions that include verbal praise, reduced supervision requirements, reduced restrictions, increased visitation, recognition in court, verbal admonishments, increased supervision requirements, phase demotion, jail sanctions, and termination.

Sin in the City

Sin in the City

   You, like me, probably have watched or listened to the local or national news and in dismay thought to yourself, “What has happened to my community and the world? Has everyone gone crazy?  It’s not safe to go out of my house!  Why are people so angry and dangerous?”  And, like me, you have probably turned the TV off because you were so frustrated with the depressing news. Why, you ask, is the whole world up-side-down?

   Even in a town as small as Birmingham, Alabama, we can find depressing statistics like the following:  (This data is based on a per-capita of 100,000 people; and can be found at: http://www.city-data.com/crime/crime-Birmingham-Alabama.html)

   “The 2018 crime rate in Birmingham, AL was 876 (City-Data.com crime index), which was 3.2 times greater than the U.S. average. It was higher than in 99.3% of U.S. cities. The 2018 Birmingham crime rate rose by 4% compared to 2015. The number of homicides stood at 88 – an increase of 9 compared to 2015. In the last 5 years Birmingham has seen an increase in violent crime and a decrease in property crime.”

   To understand what is happening to our communities we must examine the “excuses” given to us by the media, psychologists, medical experts, governments, and even some churches.  It seems like no one wants to discuss the truth about what is wrong.  All the various experts want to sweep it under the rug with explanations like he/she has childhood issues, mental issues, emotional issues, medical issues, environmental issues, or its their economic status, race, nationality, or sex.

   I find it interesting that the dictionary gives the synonym of sin as crime.  I also find it interesting that the dictionary also defines sin as an act regarded as a transgression, especially a willful, or deliberate violation of some religious or moral principle. This would imply that it is sin only if you are religious. In other words, the dictionary, which is the world’s interpretation for words, sees sin only relevant when you see the world through a religious lens.

   Therefore, the world in general does not use the word sin. From a Christian worldview the answer to this dilemma is very simple: “We live in a sinful world. And, sinners do not believe that what they are doing is wrong. If you disagree with them, you are the problem! From a worldview perspective sin is not a valid word. As Christians we know that the answer to what is wrong with Birmingham, America, and the world can be defined with this one small word—sin. To understand how this word is the problem around the world we must examine the Bible. However, we must also understand that the Bible can be confusing at times. One puzzling verse for me has always been Psalm 51:4, when David says to the Lord, “Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight.” (ESV)

   That doesn’t make sense to me, because remember, David wrote this passage of Scripture after he was confronted by the prophet Nathan for taking Bathsheba to bed and murdering her husband, Uriah. So why does David only confess to God? Shouldn’t he confess his evil deeds to others? So, let’s clear something up, David isn’t ignorant of the consequences of his actions, nor is he minimizing what he’s done to Bathsheba, Uriah, the families involved, and the nation of Israel. Rather, he’s admitting that sin (against God) occurred first, which then paved the way for destructive sin (against others).

   This is an important principle for us to remember, especially as we consider the topic of personal change. In other words, every act of human wickedness committed against another human being starts with the breaking of an intimate relationship with God. When we sin, we forget his presence; every sin seeks for his throne; every sin replaces the Creator with some created idol. David was able to take Bathsheba to bed because, in that moment, he didn’t care about the presence of God. David was able to order the murder of Uriah because, in that moment, he believed he was the ruler of all things. David was able to bring unspeakable pain to other families because, in that moment, his idol of pleasure was more important than the people to whom he was called to protect. But you might say, “I don’t sin like those people I read about in the media, and especially like King David from the Bible.” You must remember that God sees every sin as an unrighteous act toward Him.

   Even sins like: unforgiveness, pride, evil thoughts, ingratitude, covetousness, selfish ambition, greed, deceitfulness, lust, heartlessness, arrogance, anger, faithlessness, senselessness, haughtiness, and spitefulness. Look at this list and tell me with a straight face that you don’t qualify as a sinner.

   Because you and I are always breaking our relationship with God, we’re always creating a mess in the situations, locations, and relationships of everyday life. I don’t want that to be my legacy – I want to change. So, if this is true, and I believe it is, then we must all change; or a better word can be found in the Bible, and that is repent. As a biblical counselor, change and repentance are words that I focus on with almost every one of my counselees. Everyone, yes even you and me, need to change something about themselves. The Apostle Paul nailed it in Romans 10 when he said: “None is righteous, no, not one.”

   If you want to see lasting change in your earthly situations, locations, and relationships, you must start by seeking change in your heavenly relationship.

   Today, confess that you’re not always aware of God’s presence. Today, confess that you don’t joyfully submit to His lordship. Today, confess that you regularly pursue your idols more than your Savior. And after you have confessed, our Savior requires repentance; as He stated in Luke 5:32, “I have not come to call the righteous but sinners to repentance.”

   During your confession and repentance, take heart because your sin is the result of a broken relationship, your hope for change is only found in a restored relationship. That’s why Jesus was crucified. It’s only through the gift of adoption into a restored relationship that we find that we need to experience a life transformation. To experience victory over sin, we need a greater love for Jesus than we have for ourselves, and His divine grace is the only thing that has the power to produce that kind of love in us. It will be a slow and arduous process, but God is patient with us even when we refuse to love Him, His faithfulness extends as far as the east is from the west.

   Yes, it’s as simple as that. What is wrong with the communities across this whole vast land called earth is sin. There is no excuse, nor any term that can cover you if you are living in sin. The only thing that can cover you is the blood of our Savior, Jesus Christ.

Wisdom Versus Anger

   I have been a member of A Call For Men for just over a year. Through my association with this group I have used various tools to discover and overcome issues in my life. When I was young I suffered from intense anger. It is written, “Do not be eager in your heart to be angry, for anger resides in the bosom of fools” Ecclesiastes 7:9 (ESV). Although I have been converted for several years now, sin remains. I do at times still struggle with anger.

I use the Bible to understand how God would have me to live. I use prayer that I may be given grace to live as God would have me to live. I use conversation and interaction with the members of A Call For Men to gain insight that I may be sure that I walk in the manner which glorifies God. I have borrowed a book from Richard, the founder of A Call For Men by Edward T. Welch. A Small Book About A Big Problem Meditations on Anger, Patience, and Peace (2017).

   This book is a 50 day ‘walk’, looking unto myself (a mentor is following along with me), that I may discover why I get angry, what the Bible says about my anger, and how I can overcome my anger. I want to look at day seven, ‘Run Toward Wisdom’, in this blog. We have looked at material in our ACFM meetings that instructs us that in mortifying sin, in this case anger, we must also replace sin with something. Proverbs chapters 1, 2, give us instruction to seek wisdom. In these chapters the Bible is pointing us to our Lord Jesus. Chapter 3 of Proverbs shows us the rewards of wisdom.

   We all know of times in our lives when our anger has brought hurt, harm, and pain. Although the life of a christian is also fraught with hurt, harm, and pain, the rewards of following Christ far outway the hurt, harm, and pain which we cause in this life because of our sin. Edward T. Welch (p. 25), wrote this, “Wisdom is anger’s opposite. With wisdom we find patience, peace, humility, self-control, and other coveted goals. At the center of wisdom is the willingness to forsake our pride and get a little lower. ‘Listen’ is wisdom’s plea (Proverbs 2:1-5). Listen to God and listen to other people”.

   In my listening to God He has led me to join with, and listen to other christians. My life is not sin free. Yet, we are commanded to turn from sin – ourselves – and to God. Christianity is not designed to be lived alone. Our Lord tells us to serve those in the Church as well as those outside the Church. We at A Call For Men seek wisdom from God that we may do so.

Below is the link to the publisher of A Small Book About a Big Problem

https://newgrowthpress.com/search-results-page?q=a+small+book+about+a+big+problem

A Call For Men

   Richard Moeck, longtime volunteer with DHR, has begun a program for Bibb County men of all types. During these meetings, a small group of men gather together to encourage one another, strengthen each other, and hold each other accountable in their walk with the Lord through the tough seasons of life. Discussion in these meetings is often prompted either by video curriculum or by conversation about events or challenges each other is facing. During the week, the men keep in touch through ‘A Call For Men’ Facebook group and private ‘A Call For Men’ Facebook chat.

   “It’s very much generational,” Moeck stated in reference to the challenges in our communities with crime, abuse, and broken families. “Men have got to be responsible to change things. I think that all of us need it–I get something from it; you get something from it; we all get something from it. And in the process, as the whole community of men starts to understand what our job is as a ‘Biblical man’, and as we lift each other up to mentor some of the other guys that will need to come along through it, then we as a society can move forward–using Christ as our example.”

   Moeck has talked with local attorneys, Judge Craig Cargile, personnel within probation, Sav-A-Life, and DHR about participation in the program on Saturdays.

   Habits are very hard to change. Biblical counseling works with the power of the Holy Spirit to change the heart–and that’s the only way you can change something for good…Is society going to be better with or without people working together for biblical manhood, and having a support group continue to help them to move through the system?

courtesy of Bibb Voice